Discover Your BDSM Role
Your BDSM Role Is:
Role play is not just a way for couples to spice things up or rejuvenate their sex life. Anyone and everyone has some sort of fantasy that they would like to play out, but more often than not, they are too nervous to ask.
The good news?
It’s perfectly normal and shared by millions. Here are some role play ideas so that you can have fun with a partner…
Common Role Play Fantasies
Boss and Employee- This is a great role-play idea as roles can easily switch, take turns on who is the boss and change the demands or scenario. Also, who doesn’t find office attire sexy?
Doctor and Nurse – Is there a patient who needs special treatment, or a doctor who wants to take advantage of a vulnerable person? A great opportunity to put on a uniform, or tear one off!
Dom, Sub, Switch- It’s all about the thrill of power exchange, either taking or giving control, and the respect and trust that are the cornerstones of BDSM. If you’re new to the game, all you need is something to tie your partner up with. Don’t forget to set a safe word.
Firefighter- How would you repay someone who saved you from a burning building? Or “Oh, you came to the wrong house, why not stay a while and have some fun?”.
Servant / Maid / Butler – They’re supposed to be cleaning, but damn, you just can’t take your eyes off of her. Plus, costumes are super easy to get and super hot.
Hitchhiker- A play on the stranger fantasy but with a car. Pretend to pick them up on the side of the road. Foreplay can begin in the car and may go further, depending on the area you drive. The thrill of being caught adds extra arousal.
Hooker or Call Girl- A chance to wear tight revealing clothes and wear makeup differently. Maybe it’s a virgin’s first time and they want it with a pro. A lot of fun can be had with this role-play.
Police Officer – Another power role-play. This time a chance to introduce handcuffs for some light bondage and restriction. Also offers the scenario of prison guard and inmate.
Movie or Book Character – Endless possibilities with this one. Tends to move with the generations, Slave Leia was very popular for a time, but I’m sure the younger generation has their own version.
Pirates – One tip, don’t go too hard on the accent. Although a lot of fun, not very sexy. You may end up killing the mood through fits of laughter, me matey.
Porn Star – It can be anything from reenacting your favorite naughty movie or just filming your own. Location possibilities are endless.
Video Game Characters – Becoming more and more popular, especially in the cosplay scene. You don’t have to look far for the endless amount of porn on female characters. Bring his fantasy to life!
Repair Person – Someone comes over to fix that squeaky bed, the washing machine is broken, the TV isn’t working. We all know the cheesy porn movie intros, just like those.
Secret Agent – Play the role of a spy for some sexpionage action. Can begin outside and then lead to somewhere more private. Are you able to keep yourself from spilling the information?
Animal Hybrid – No need to go full-on furry, simple cat ears and a tail butt plug would go a long way! If you wanted to go furry then you’d need to dedicate a lot more time and money.
Fairy Tale Character – Nearly every man dreams of banging one of the Disney princesses/princes, hell maybe both at the same time. Cheap costumes are easy to find online, so add variety to the mix.
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Sports Star and Fan – Similar to the Hollywood star one. Just exchange your Oscar’s attire for a sports jersey. There is also another variation of Rock Star and Groupie.
Strangers at a Bar – You lock eyes over your happy hour cocktail. The attraction is enough to make you want to skip to the hotel and go to the nearest bathroom, closet, or empty room.
Stripper – The main rule at a strip club, do not touch the dancer. But a private dance? Depends on how much you tip. No pole required, just a chair and some sexy dance moves.
Superhero – Like video games, this area has had a huge boom over the past few years. With endless characters to choose from, and a lot of tight clothing, perfect to make a dream come true.
Teacher and Student – Probably the most well-known fantasy, probably due to the fact that the schoolgirl outfit is timelessly sexy. Good for switching roles and having a female teacher, every young man’s fantasy.
From Fantasy to Reality
For a lot of people, their sexual role playing ideas stay in their heads – mostly due to the fact that they are nervous to bring up the subject with their significant other.
Maybe because over time the passion has dwindled, there is less excitement and adventure in their sex life and it has become more vanilla. Or perhaps they are scared of what their partner will think or say, that they might think you are “weird’ or “perverted”.
Newsflash… everyone thinks like that!
We all have a deep seeded fear of being ridiculed and rejected. Also, not everyone has established that line of communication in their relationships, they are not able to openly speak about their desires.
What’s the best thing you can do?
Take things slowly – It all comes down to being patient, waiting for the right moment, and dropping a hint of some sort (if you think your S.O. needs the light touch). It also doesn’t need to be one, deciding conversation.
“No” isn’t the end of the world – Sometimes, your partner won’t be into trying it. If so, there might be another version or fantasy they can get into.
Communication and compromise are key.
If you need help or more ideas about BDSM, these articles are a must:
- What is a Safe Word? Learn the Basics of Kink Communication
- Cheap BDSM Equipment From the Dollar, Thrift, or Hardware Store
- Erotic Spanking – How to Properly Paddle That Posterior
What are your favorite role-playing fantasies? Share the sexy details in the comments!
