Deep-throating. Two little words that make men’s eyes and pants bulge. They also instill dread in a lot of partners. But, not to worry, there are ways to master this knee-buckling, putty-inducing technique. In this guide, we will look at simple ways on how to deep throat so both sides are having fun.
HOW TO DEEP THROAT – FORGET SUCKING
This isn’t like a regular blowjob.
If you try to suck like a vacuum, it will be very unpleasant – your jaw muscles and mouth will get sore very fast and you won’t take in enough air (which can cause more problems). The softness and natural “O” of your mouth (and eventually your throat) will be enough of a sensation.
THE GAG REFLEX
It is the main enemy in the deepthroat battle.
It’s also different for each person. 37% of women are lucky enough not to have one, while others are so sensitive, they’ll vomit just thinking about putting something near the back of their throat. It’s also not ONE part of the throat, but a whole area that can trigger a pharyngeal reflex – the roof of the mouth, the back of the tongue, the tonsil area, etc.
There are several tricks people claim work, like bunching your fists with your thumb under your fingers, etc. However, in the end, it comes down to one simple fact.
You have to practice and train your gag reflex to calm down.
HOW TO DEEPTHROAT – SLOW TRAINING
- First, get a toothbrush, dildo, your finger, or anything else thin yet phallic-shaped.
- Slowly move the object to the back of the throat. When you feel a gag creep up, stop there and don’t go any further.
- Try to relax and keep breathing while you actively try to suppress your gag reflex.
- Hold it there for 10 seconds. Repeat this cycle a few times.
- Do this two or three times a week, by the end, you’ll see a bit of improvement.
- Keep doing this until you feel you can slowly move it in and out.
- There will be extra stimulation during this step, so the need to gag will be heavier. Stay calm, keep breathing, and relax the spasms.
- A few more weeks of this, and you’ll be ready to impress your man.
SIDE NOTE: the word “desensitizing” might freak out some people (like they’re altering their body’s natural reactions etc.), but keep in mind that even dentists use little tricks to help their clients lessen the urge to gag, so they can go about their work without ending up covered in vomit.
It’s okay and safe (remember that some people don’t have one at all).
CURB THE NEED TO THRUST
Your partner might have the urge to grab your head and shove his wand in further. This could be for three reasons:
- He’s oblivious to the fact it creates discomfort and a need to gag
- He’s lost in pleasure and lets his body take over
- He’s a dickbag
Some men do like the sound of gagging (it’s a, “my dick is huge” thing).
JUST REMEMBER: For some people, despite your desensitizing training, there’s no way to make it 100% go away. It’s a hard maneuver in general.
Have a talk with your partner and remind them that their job is to hand over all the movement and controls to you and take it like a champ.
HOW TO DEEP THROAT – POSITION
Finding the right position will also help.
There’s no “ideal” way to place your body, but anything that aligns your throat straight to the penis will work wonders. Try laying on your back with your head just over the bed or tilting your head back (chin up) in any way that will make a straight line to your stomach. It won’t be going down that far, but it will cause the least aggravation to the soft pallet.
THE IMPORTANCE OF BREATHING
It might sound like a no-brainer, but having a penis lodged partway in your throat makes breathing harder (or impossible if he’s big). You’ll have to find a way to get some oxygen.
There are a few ways:
- Inhale as you slide him out and use that moment to take a quick breath.
- Others say inhaling as he’s sliding in works too – but this will depend on how big he is.
- You might also want to try sticking out your tongue while your deep throat. The action creates a slight gap to allow air in (so it could be possible to inhale as he is going IN). And the sensation of running along your tongue will be extra nice.
- Take a break. It’s totally acceptable to stop whenever you need. It might not be ideal for “continuous sensations” but any decent man will understand. Besides, you can just use your hands or give regular head until you’re ready to dive in again.
SOMETIMES, IT’S A SMALL ORAL CAVITY
If you have a smaller throat and your partner has a bigger penis, it might just be physically impossible to deepthroat. However not being able to have the particular sensation is not the end of the world. You can also pair a blow job with things like one-use masturbation sleeves (like Tenga eggs) or certain stroking sex toys that can make you forget about deep-throating altogether.
Try GUSH – An app-controlled Glans Massager. THE PERFECT PAIRING FOR ORAL SEX.
MORE TIPS AND TECHNIQUES
- Be prepared for a lot of salivae. There’s no way to get around it.
- When you brush your teeth, brush far back along the tongue.
- It’s hard to gag and HUM at the same time, so hum a little (tune optional).
- I’ll also say again that gagging to some degree is inevitable, even for a porn star, so don’t sweat it and just try to reduce it as much as possible.
Also, if you’re interested in more oral sex info, check out these articles:
- 30 Tips on How to Give a Great Blow Job
- How to Change the Taste of Semen – From Bitter to Better
- Oral Sex STDs 101 – Things to Know Before Opening Your Mouth
Do you have any tips or tricks on how to deep throat? Share in the comments!
