When the weather turns cold, the snow starts to pile up, and the blankets just aren’t enough, try adding some extra heat to the bedroom in the form of…
Temperature play!
Specifically heat play.
TEMPERATURE PLAY FOR BEGINNERS
BEING SAFE
Obviously, this is a kink that can go as mild or as intense as you want. BUT, no matter what, you need to do your research ahead of time – read, find masters, test, try things slowly, practice.
Your goal is to create a temperature difference and maybe a nice red blush to the skin. You don’t want to cause blisters, burns, or scars. And, if you can’t take it on your own body, you shouldn’t be doing it on someone else’s.
And, DON’T FORGET YOUR SAFE WORD (verbal and non-verbal if you’re using a ball gag etc.).
Learn more here…
What is a Safe Word? Learn the Basics of Kink Communication
After that, there’s the essential aftercare – A body check, cooling packs, a fan, aloe, a warm blanket or housecoat, chocolate, water, cuddles, discussions, and praise.
11 KINDS OF HEAT PLAY
SEX TOYS – Putting glass, stainless steel, ceramic, or porcelain sex toys in very warm water will heat up the material and make using them an entirely different, yet pleasurable, experience.
Besides dildos, butt plugs, prostate massagers, you can try chastity cages, urethral sounds, knives, and medical role play equipment.
SWEET SAUCES – Heating chocolate or caramel syrup for a few seconds (making sure it’s not too hot for the skin), is a great baby step if you’re not ready or wanting things like wax play. There’s also the benefit of an added taste dynamic.
HOT SAUCES – Spice will definitely kick some ass. It can be quite pleasurable for some, BUT it can also cause chemical burns to sensitive skin (especially around thin membranes like around/in the genitals). It goes without saying that the hotter the sauce, the higher the heat.
Always start with a mild heat and do a spot test for allergies. Slowly build your way up until you find the brand and heat leave that meets your sweet spot. After that, use common sense – like not putting it around the eyes etc.
MASSAGE OILS – Some are specifically designed to heat up when you start working with them or blowing on them.
HEATING LUBE – There are lubes designed to heat up when in use. Do a spot test first because some people can be allergic to it or it can cause yeast infections for some women.
HOT WATER WARMING – Take any regular lube, lotion, or massage oil and keep it in a bowl of very warm water for a few minutes to bring up the heat. This way you can stick to products you trust while still partaking in temperature play.
MEDICATED RUBS – Careful, these can get REALLY hot and uncomfortable for some people. Always do a spot test and see how you react for a couple of hours.
MELTED WAX – When it comes to temperature kinks, wax play is an oldie but a goodie. Take care though, it’s not something to jump into if you haven’t done your research!
CUPPING – Have you ever seen those glass bulbs they use in Chinese medicine that suck up part of the skin/flesh and leave a round bruise after? That’s cupping. It’s temperature play because it involves using heat to create the vacuum. Don’t do this without instruction and practice!!
FIRE PLAY – This is considered edge play (which means it’s on the dangerous side of kink). It requires a lot of research, practice, and preparation to do safely.
THE SHOWER – Yep, shower or bathtub sex might seem like old hat sex, but technically, it’s temperature play (especially if you turn on the opposite temperature for a moment to shock your partner).
WAYS TO ENHANCE TEMP PLAY
Any other kink can be added to your shenanigans. Blindfolds, restraints, balls gags, vacuum beds, other sex toys (magic wands are fantastic), a candlelit room, silk sheets, you name it. Add or take away other sensory inputs to change the game.
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Any other heat play that you want to add? Share in the comments!
