Note: This article has been updated
One of the most advanced (yet hugely popular) BDSM tools is the St. Andrews cross. And even though it might seem very intimidating to some, it can be a widely fun piece of kink equipment. In this guide, we will look at its unique history, explore essential BDSM safety steps, go over DIY concepts, and introduce you to some exciting ways to use this tool to take your spicy experiences to the next level.
Whether you are a seasoned kink practitioner or just a beginner, this blog post has something for everyone. Read on to discover all about the St. Andrews cross and how to play safely and sensually with it.
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What is a BDSM Cross?
The design of the St. Andrew’s Cross is a pretty perfect match for BDSM activities. It’s super sturdy, so it can hold someone’s arms and legs securely, spreading them out in a way that’s both a bit vulnerable but totally agreed upon.
This setup is great for all sorts of fun, from playing with different sensations to a little impact play to experimenting with who’s in charge. Plus, you can upgrade the cross with all kinds of extras like cuffs, ropes, or chains, making it even more versatile and exciting for everyone involved. It’s this kind of flexibility that really makes the St. Andrew’s Cross a hit in BDSM spaces.
Other Names
They are also called an X-cross, X-frame, or saltire cross. There’s no difference in the design, just what people prefer to call it.
Why Saint Andrew?
Originally, the St. Andrew’s Cross represented sacrifice and humility. Saint Andrew, feeling unworthy of a crucifixion similar to Christ’s, chose an X-shaped cross for his execution in Patras, Greece. This emblem of martyrdom later became Scotland’s national symbol, encapsulating themes of endurance and the link between enduring hardship and achieving victory.
Fast forward to more recent times, it crossed over into the BDSM scene. But the “how” remains a mystery – like half of its pages were ripped out of a historical novel. No one can say exactly how or when it started but by the time the 20th century set in, this symbol for ancient sacrifice had begun appearing in all sorts of kinky places. It became a fixture in the BDSM world and changed from a super-secretive underground rendezvous to something far more open and accepting.
Practical Historical Use
The X-shaped cross had utility far beyond its religious significance. It was a practical, down-to-earth form for farm or animal barricades. This design gave farmers easy access while maintaining robust barriers. The X-structure, by virtue of its shape, offered stability and strength, making it an ideal choice for outdoor use and durability.
What Are They Made From?
When it comes to BDSM gear, crosses are some seriously tough and intriguing bits of kit. They’re made to withstand whatever twisted ideas their owners can dream up, and each one is designed with care and durability in mind. There are a few different materials and options to choose from, and each one has its own unique feel and look. Let’s take a closer look:
- Solid Steel: If you’re looking for something that’s built to last and has that industrial edge, steel is the way to go. It’s incredibly strong and can handle some serious action. Plus, it just looks sleek and sexy. It’s the perfect choice for those who like their BDSM sessions on the intense side.
- Hardwood: There’s something about a wooden cross that just feels right. Oak or walnut are popular choices, adding a warm, organic touch to your play. It’s like taking your BDSM session back to nature.
- Steel-Wood Combo: Can’t decide between steel and wood? Why not have both? Combining these materials creates a unique look that’s all your own. It’s the perfect blend of strength and elegance, and it’s sure to turn heads.
- Leather Wrappings: For those who prefer a more luxurious feel, leather-wrapped crosses are the way to go. They look amazing and add a touch of class to your play. Plus, leather can be quite cushioning, which is perfect for those long, intense sessions.
- Padded Crosses: If you’re planning on spending hours in the dungeon, a padded cross is a must-have. These babies come with a layer of cushioning material covered in durable fabric, giving you a soft surface to play on without sacrificing strength. It’s the perfect balance of comfort and kink.
“Modern BDSM crosses now come with clever features like quick-release mechanisms and adjustable restraints, a testament to the BDSM community’s dedication to keeping things safe, sane, and consensual. It’s all about ensuring the thrill comes with trust and security.”
But Wait, There’s More!
- Adornments: Little extras like extra hooks, adjustable parts, and eye-catching finishes can really make your cross stand out. They might bump up the price tag, but if it makes your experience that much better, it’s worth it. It’s all about finding the perfect cross that fits your unique style and needs.
- Cleaning: No matter what material or extras you choose, keeping your cross clean is important. Different materials will have different care instructions, so make sure you know what works best for your specific cross. Steel might just need a wipe down, while wood could require more special attention.
When shopping for or crafting your own BDSM cross, it’s all about finding the perfect balance of form, function, and personal preference. It doesn’t matter if you prefer something minimalist or go all out with a fully customized piece, there’s a cross out there that’s just right for you. So take your time, experiment, and find the one that feels right.
How to Play With a BDSM Cross
These ideas can help you customize and enhance your BDSM cross experiences even more, making each session unique and tailored to the desires and limits of everyone involved.
- Choosing Position: Think about whether you wanna have your partner face you or away. Each option sets a different vibe and dynamic for what’s about to go down.
- Handcuffs and Ropes: Get those wrists and ankles secured. You can go with classic leather cuffs or maybe try out some shibari ropes for a more exotic touch. Just make sure they’re snug but comfy.
- Ropes for More Than Just Tying: Speaking of ropes, they’re not just for restraining people. There have been some wild scenes where people used them in all sorts of ways, like for an erotic exorcism. Now that’s gotta be a wild night!
- Get Your Imagination Going: You could edge them, tickle them, or maybe even go all out with some impact play. Or a sensual massage sounds nice too. Just remember, with great power comes great responsibility, especially when it comes to stuff like water bondage.
- Tech Meets Kink: App-controlled sex toys can take things to the next level. You can control the rhythm and intensity from your phone. Yummy.
- Hands-Free Fun: Don’t forget about wearable sex toys. They stay in place, leaving your hands free to explore other areas or just enjoy the show.
- Spinning Crosses: It’s like having a rotating stage for your play. It gives you all sorts of new angles and possibilities to experiment with.
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- Temperature Play: You can spice things up by using warm wax or ice cubes on your partner. The contrast between the heat and cold can be super thrilling, especially when they’re restrained and immersed in the experience.
- Sensory Deprivation: To heighten the senses, try using blindfolds or headphones with a custom playlist. This will make them focus more on the sensations.
- Feather Teasing: Use feathers or soft items to gently brush against their skin. This light touch can be super stimulating, especially when it’s mixed with more intense sensations.
- Dirty Talk: Chat dirty or give commands during the scene. The psychological aspect of being restrained on the cross and hearing dominating or teasing words can be a huge turn-on.
- Mirror Action: If they’re facing away from you, put a mirror in front of them so they can watch what’s going on and see your reactions.
- Aftercare Stations: Set up a cozy area nearby where they can relax and unwind after the fun. Seeing this area reminds them that you’ll take care of them after the session, giving them some psychological comfort.
- Scented Atmosphere: Use candles or essential oil diffusers to create various atmospheres with different scents. It’s a great way to set the mood.
BDSM Cross Safety Tips
Let’s dive into the nitty-gritty of setting up your St. Andrew’s Cross with a sprinkle of sass and a ton of safety. Whether you’re anchoring it for a session that’s as stable as your relationship or looking for options that don’t anger your landlord, we’ve got you covered.
- Wall Mounting: When securing the cross to a wall, use high-quality mounting hardware suitable for the wall material—brick, drywall, or concrete—all require different types of anchors. Ensure the wall itself can support dynamic loads, considering the movement and pressure that will be applied.
- Non-Permanent Setups: For those unable to make permanent installations, seek crosses with heavy-duty, weighted bases to prevent tipping. Look for models designed with disassembly in mind, allowing for discreet storage. Non-slip pads under bases can add extra stability on hard floors.
- Prioritize Craftsmanship and Reviews: Spend time researching manufacturers and seek out products made from high-grade materials, whether it’s stainless steel for its durability and ease of cleaning or treated hardwoods that resist warping. Detailed reviews and BDSM community forums can provide insights into long-term reliability and safety.
- Do the “Struggle & Squirm” Test: Beyond just pushing and pulling, simulate various scenarios and positions you intend to explore. Check for any creaking, shifting, or signs of strain on the structure. This proactive approach can help identify potential weaknesses before they become real issues.
Before the Scene: The Essential Conversation
It’s crucial to have an honest conversation about what you both want to try with the St. Andrew’s Cross. This talk is the foundation of trust and makes sure everything is enjoyable and consensual for everyone involved.
- Talk about desires and boundaries: Get everything out in the open. What are you both excited about and what limits are there? This clarity sets the stage for an experience that’s both thrilling and respectful.
- Pick safe words: Choose words that are clear and easy to remember. It’s like a parachute you hope you don’t need, but if you do, you’ll be glad you have it.
- Prepare for emergencies: Keep cutting tools within easy reach. If you need to get out of something quick, you’ll want a way to do it safely and fast.
- Check restraints: Make sure everything feels secure without being too tight and cutting off circulation. Comfort is key to feeling free and fully enjoying the experience.
- Pay attention to each other: It’s important to keep an eye on how the other person is feeling. It’s not just about safety, it’s about connection and having fun together.
- Remember roles aren’t everything: Both Doms and subs should feel comfortable and in the zone during the scene. It’s okay to use a safe word from any role.
- Take care of each other after: Give yourselves some TLC after things cool down. That might mean using lotions or just chillin’ and talkin’.
- Reflect on what went down: Talk about what you liked and what could be better for next time. This feedback loop is important for growing together in your BDSM journey.
- Learn more about aftercare: There’s a lot to know about aftercare, so check out resources that dive deeper into how to take care of each other after playtime. This article has plenty of information (click on link).
It’s all about finding the right balance between excitement and caring for each other. It’s about having fun and respecting each other’s limits and desires. This mix of thrills and empathy is what makes BDSM so unique and fulfilling. Here’s to embarking on this journey with open hearts and minds, ready to discover new heights of pleasure and connection!
Can I Make a BDSM Cross?
Yes and no. If you have experience with woodworking and or kink crafting (plus have the right tools), you can make your own St. Andrew’s cross (and save A LOT of money). It’s a few pieces of wood fixed together. There are lots of guides online that will walk someone through the process. However, if you’re not construction competent, this is NOT a safe project to take on yourself. It’s safer to buy one from professionals.
But for DIY-savvy people out there, here’s a guide on what you’ll need and how to build it. If one of your lovely readers out there has crafted one, we encourage you to share your ideas and tips in the comments below. After all, BDSM is about learning too – not just kinky fun!
Quick BDSM Cross Construction
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DIY St. Andrew’s Cross Construction Guide
Materials Needed:
- 2 pieces of 6”x2”x80” treated hardwood for the main structure
- 2 pieces of 4”x2”x60” treated hardwood for additional support
- 1 3/8″ x 8″ carriage bolt for joining the main structure
- 10 4” heavy-duty metal hooks/clips for attachments
- 4 2” screw-in wall anchors for mounting (if applicable)
- 4 3/8″ x 4” wood screws for assembly
- Wood stain or paint in your choice of color
Tools Needed:
- Screwdriver
- Drill with a 3/8″ bit and countersink bit
- Measuring tape
- Spirit level
- Carpenter’s pencil
- Tenon saw and chisel for making joints
- Sandpaper (120 grit)
- Protractor for measuring angles
Preparation: After cutting, sand all wood pieces to remove any rough edges. Apply a light coat of paint or varnish to all parts, choosing a color that suits your aesthetic. Let dry.
Step 1: Wall Measurement and Preparation (Optional) – If mounting to a wall, measure and mark a spot 90” high for the top support placement. Use a level to draw a horizontal line where the 60” planks will be fixed, ensuring it’s perfectly level. Mark another line at 2 feet from the ground for the lower support placement, ensuring both lines are parallel and the space between them is 78 inches.
Step 2: Drilling and Anchors – Drill holes for the wall anchors 4 inches from either end of the 60” planks, ensuring they’re level. Screw in the wall anchors until tight, preparing for mounting.
Step 3: Assemble Wall Supports (Optional) – Secure the top and bottom planks to the wall using screws, establishing a stable base for the cross if wall-mounted.
Step 4: Creating the Cross
- Lay one 80” plank flat. Use the protractor to mark a 55-degree angle at the midpoint of the plank’s width for the lap joint, ensuring you cut halfway through the thickness.
- With the tenon saw, carefully cut from the marked line to the opposite bottom corner, removing the triangular piece with a chisel for a flat, clean joint.
- Repeat this process on the second 80” plank so the two can be interlocked securely at the joint.
Step 5: Joining the Planks – Once both planks have matching lap joints, fit them together to form an ‘X’. Drill a central hole through the joint and secure with the carriage bolt, adding stability.
Step 6: Attaching the Cross to Supports – Position the cross against the wall-mounted bars (if applicable) or a chosen support structure. Drill through the cross and supports, securing with wood screws.
Step 7: Adding Hooks/Clips – Strategically place and secure metal hooks/clips on the cross for wrist and ankle attachments, ensuring they’re evenly distributed for balanced support.
Finishing Touches: – Review all connections and attachments for security. Add any additional accessories like spreader bars, cuffs, etc., for a professional finish.
Final Check: – Make sure the cross is stable and securely mounted or supported. Test all attachments and adjustments for safety and comfort.
For those who prefer visuals: Watch someone make their own cross:
Other Useful Tips & Tidbits
- Make sure it’s in a place that will allow plenty of room for any impact play.
- If it’s in a dungeon, pay attention to other club members around you (especially if you will be wielding something that could hurt others).
- Always keep your cross clean and sterilized after each use (regardless of how many people use it). The same goes for any toys you’re using.
- If your sub is facing away from you, watch them carefully and check in (since you won’t be able to hear them as easily), or make sure they know to speak up louder than normal if necessary.
- Have fun with other toys while your partner is tied up.
- NEVER leave someone alone while tied up! Even if it’s for a few minutes.
- Using A BDSM cross is a learning experience. It’s okay to make mistakes. This is why communication is important!
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