Have you ever heard of extreme edging? If you’re into BDSM or looking to spice up your sex life, you might want to look into this tantalizing practice. Extreme edging involves bringing yourself or your partner close to the edge of orgasm and then stopping, repeatedly, for hours on end.
And, with the right safety measures, this practice can lead to some incredibly satisfying and intense experiences. But it’s super important to be aware of the risks and precautions that are vital to indulge in this form of play.
In this post, we’re going to look at the benefits and risks along with some safety measures to ensure the best possible (and wonderfully torturous) experience as well as other useful tidbits. Are you ready to dive into the world of extreme edging? Let’s go!
Edging Versus Extreme Edging
Let’s start with regular edging. Also called peaking or surfing, it’s a sexual technique where you control someone’s orgasm. You can do this with a partner or you can do this on your own. Now this might sound easy, but maintaining a high level of sexual arousal for an extended. of can be tricky for some people.
And yes, it falls under the BDSM umbrella, but like all kinks, it can be practiced to any extreme. So, if your partner is about to orgasm and you playfully stop it then you have engaged in the act of edging.
With regular edging, this kind of play maybe only lasts anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours – depending on the person.
However, extreme edging takes this practice and maximizes not only the time but the stimulation. An easy example would be having a partner control not that you orgasm but still maintain sexual arousal, for an entire day. Keep in mind, this is just a simple idea of extreme edging. There are couples, Dom/mes, and cam models that have entire games based on this idea.
Extreme Edging Benefits
Orgasm denial might not sound like a fun thing but it’s actually quite fantastic, even if you’re a beginner. One reason it can be great to practice edging (extreme or not) it’s because it can…
Help with Self-Awareness – to do any sort of vagina you have to be very aware of your body. This includes knowing what turns you on, what can trigger you to a quick orgasm, and ways that you can control yourself. Believe It or Not, kind of mindfulness.
It Can Increase Sexual Stamina – we all know that on average it takes women a bit longer to reach orgasm compared to men. So if a guy can master extreme edging, he’ll be able to satisfy his partner for much longer.
The Orgasms Are Better – the denial, as well as the anticipation, will give practitioners some of the most intense orgasms they’ve ever experienced in their lives.
Did you know that you can build up anticipation without actually being in a sexual environment?
You can start the excitement process well in advance with things like sexting or sending naughty pictures to each other (if you have a partner of course). If you’re riding solo, or practicing solo, you can still have the same pregame experience. You can listen to erotic audiobooks or look at whatever online sexy photos that floats your boat.
I’ll also add that it can teach some people, patients. Instant gratification isn’t always our best friend and learning how to delay it can come with some pretty awesome benefits.
Extreme Edging Techniques & Tools
First, place. And we all know that there are endless choices out there. Some yummy examples that are definitely worth a try include…
Chastity Belts – these can help with anticipation since the rarer will be excited for the time they’ll be unlocked and the fun can begin. Plus, oh, even the act of wearing one can be exciting. You can also use things like vibrators to target external parts of the Chastity cage to create residual vibrations that will tease your partner.
Cock Cages – these are the male equivalent of a chastity belt. It is a device that goes over the penis and will stop someone from getting a full erection. This product in and of itself allows for edging since the wearer can’t get a full boner.
Vibrators – there are so many different kinds of vibrators out there that you might have a hard time choosing one. So I’ll give you a crash course. Magic wands are meant for powerful vibrations. Bullet vibrators are meant for more gentle but targeted vibrations. Rabbit vibrators are for internal vibrations open but they can be used externally) resting vibrators are exactly how they sound.
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Vibrating Nipple Clamps – some people can actually reach orgasms through their nipples. Having a set of vibrating nipple clamps can be a really fun addition. It can be especially torturous if you add it alongside another sex toy.
Male Masturbators – they can be smart toys, like Lovense Max 2, or simple sleeves like Tenga eggs. It doesn’t matter. It’s all up to you and your edging preferences. When you do decide to get one, make sure to look at things like sleeve textures, vibrations, heating options, the depth of the toy, app-control options, and whatever other goodies you think will be perfect for your extreme edging adventures.
Anal Toys – here we have things like butt plugs, prostate massagers, or anal vibrators/dildos. However, no matter what you choose always remember the golden rule of anal toys. They MUST have a flared base for safety! If they don’t, bother getting them. Anal toys are fantastic because you can double up with other sex toys.
There is a site (Fap Roulette) with some images like the one above – but with different rules. Each image works with a random number picker that corresponds with something on that page’s rule list. It’s a good way to gamify things.
Extreme Edging – Ways to Halt an Orgasm
If you’re doing it with a partner, the biggest tool you need is communication. Even the most seasoned players that know each other very well have to talk to each other. You need to tell each other what you’re feeling what your body is doing and if you’re getting close. This lets the other person do what they need to do to stop the orgasm from coming to fruition. Here is a list of things you can try…
- Remove the stimulation from whatever sex toys you’re using (this is especially good for solo play)
- Some people use ice because of the cold and the shock
- For those who like it, slapping can be kinky as well as good for stopping an orgasm
- You can take the tantric road and breathe your way through it
- There’s a squeezing method where someone can press the head of the penis for around 30 seconds. You’re doing it to another person have them show you exactly what works for them
The Risks of Extreme Edging
The risks of extreme edging first, don’t buy into the mess that it causes erectile dysfunction.
However, there can be a “risk” (if you want to call it that) of epididymal hypertension also known as blue balls. It’s also a no-brainer on how to fix this. Because remember, extreme edging isn’t about NEVER letting you or your partner orgasm. It’s about delaying it.
This next part however I hope you do take very seriously.
Some sexual acts (depending on the person) can bring on overwhelming emotional highs and lows. When delving deep into someone’s fantasies, sexual depths, etc., you can occasionally run into unexpected emotions, that you didn’t know were there before. These can be positive or negative.
That’s why edging should be taken seriously and come with a safe word and/or a verbal safe word if you’re going to be using anything to stop them from speaking. If they use their safe word and they need their orgasm to happen, you have to respect this.
And, you need to talk about things afterward to make sure the session went okay or if anything needs to be improved. If anything went wrong you need to provide exceptional aftercare. This might include checking up on them the next day or a few days afterward.
Extreme Edging Final Thoughts
This might sound all intimidating – but don’t let that scare you away! Because you don’t have to dive into the deep end immediately. You can start with regular edging and build your way up. Or, if you’re someone who just likes the shallow end of the “extreme edging pool”, that’s totally okay!
Meaning, if a thousand strokes are ideal for you, don’t judge the person who finds bliss in a hundred.
Finally, I want to say again that since this is a type of BDSM play you need to provide aftercare, PERIOD. Much and what it is depends on you and your partner But if you communicate, have an action plan ready ahead of time, know your limits, have some fun doodads to play with, and come in with an open and exciting mind, you’re going to have the time of your life.
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