When we think of adult public play, we usually think of sex toys – or even going the old-fashioned way with using other parts of the body. But with the wonderful and continuous developments in the tech world, there are so many other options. And today we’re going to look at how this works into nipple play.
We’ll go over how to open a conversation with your partner, other key conversation points to have, how to take your first steps into public nipple play, what products you can use, etc.
But first, a very important note…
PUBLIC PLAY ISN’T “PUBLIC”
Before we dive in, I want to put out a clear disclaimer. Anytime we talk about public play on any Lovense articles or products, there is always the understanding that “public play” doesn’t actually mean partaking in pleasure when the people around you can witness it.
Instead, you should get used to attaching the term “discreet” to any concept of the term “public” in any sexual context here or on any other site.
Yes, there are people who get a thrill of being caught by actual strangers, etc. But getting down and dirty in any way shape or form (in an open setting) without other people’s consent, breaks one of the SSSC rules (safe, sane, sober, consensual). These make kink/BDSM play safe and healthy as opposed to the abusive side that gives good people like us a bad name. It can also be downright illegal in cases where younger eyes might happen upon even a glimpse.
This is why WHERE you choose to have your “public” play is very important – which we will cover later.
TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER
So, you want to try nipple play outside your home? Cool!
This kind of step can be great for anyone who wants to know what it’s like to have a public thrill without the weighted stress of a wearable sex toy like a love egg or a prostate massager, etc.
If your partner(s) are already kinky people, the conversation will be easy. But if they’re still more on the vanilla side, then wait for a time when your sexual temperatures are already going (or even after when you’re lingering in post-sex bliss). OR … whenever you feel is appropriate. Tell them what you want to try and see if they feel comfortable giving it a go.
If they are, great! If they’re nervous, you can always try baby steps by playing with these toys around the house while you’re going about your day, in the backyard, or a quick walk around the block.
Agree on both sides’ ground rules on what will make the experience 100% comfortable.
For example, maybe there will be zero things happening if someone is even within visual range. Perhaps you get full control over the nipple toys and your partner can only watch, etc.
CHOOSING A PRODUCT
The best choice for discreet pubic play is a vibrating nipple clamp set with Bluetooth or other long-distance technology. There are sets out there that can be controlled with a smartphone – even having control of each vibrator at a time.
But if these toys are too expensive, there are some with remotes attached (but they will be more fiddley and harder to be discreet with. Finally, you can have regular nipple clamps. But I would suggest having ones with some sort of dangling part so your partner can give a tug once in a while (if you want their participation, that is).
Also, speaking from experience, make sure you get an ADJUSTABLE set, so you can fix them to whatever pressure that makes you happy.
CLOTHING CONSIDERATION FOR NIPPLE PLAY
There’s one thing you can’t get around – no matter the style, 99% of the time nipple clamps will be visible under any kind of thin material. So if you want to were a silky dress or any old top (for guys) and go to a club while wearing a big, ‘ol set of nipple clamps, then everyone is going to see (and you could be breaking the SCCC rule depending on where you are or who you run into).
Instead, opt for some kind of bra with at least a little padding. Not only will they hide the clamps, but they will also help keep them in place. For guys, go through your shirts and see if there is a jacket or something that will help hide the goodies.
Finally, how accessible do you want these clamps if you don’t have ones with a smartphone connection option? Think about what you’re going to wear before stepping out the door.
GOOD PLACES FOR PUBLIC NIPPLE PLAY
I’m assuming you have a set with at least a remote control of some kind – otherwise, it’s nearly impossible. If you don’t know where to go to have fun, it’s simple.
You can go anywhere that has enough noise (to hide any possible pleasure sounds – but you’re still going to try everything you can to keep quiet). But the noise will also cover the sound of the toys because none are 100% quiet. More people also mean fewer eyes staring at what’s going on with you.
- Walking down a busy street
- A busy cafe or restaurant
- Walking through a park
- At a museum or gallery
- A club or concert
COMMUNICATE AFTER NIPPLE PLAY
So, let’s say you get home from a session. Don’t forget to have a conversation about what you liked, what could be tweaked, and what you maybe don’t want to do anymore. This conversation can be as long or short as you want. For established players, it can even be, “Everything good?” “Yep!”
Just make sure you’re on the same page because there can be instances where someone might feel scared or embarrassed. So, check in before, during, and after play.
Enjoy!
