March 14th is Steak and Blowjob day – the male counterpart to Valentine’s Day … and there are some seriously mixed feelings about it.
Let’s look at some brief backstory, other culture’s practices, and alternative options…
THE HISTORY OF STEAK & BJ DAY
The American version of this “holiday” started as a concept/comment in 2002 from radio DJ Tom Birdsey of WFNX Boston, Massachusetts.
However, the British version (Steak and Knobber Day) came about in 1998 from radio host, Dave Rickards, and suggests that it should be held on March 20th instead.
Since then, several websites have popped up, all claiming they are the “original” ST&BJ Day source.
The notion is simple – that women have Valentine’s Day, and are showered with gifts and attention, so there should be a male equivalent as well.
THE RECEPTION
Obviously, feelings about this day are very mixed.
On one hand, people feel that it’s “Neanderthal” and a counter-movement to feminism and equality – nothing but male privilege inserting itself into the calendar.
On the other hand, whether we want to admit it or not, a majority of Valentine’s Day is focused on women. Yes, there are plenty of couples who both take seriously or don’t care about it at all, but a majority feel it’s a lopsided event.
Then there is the fact that March ST&BJ Day is also used as a fundraising event to fight breast cancer – a fact which some people say doesn’t matter or justify anything because of the perceived vulgarity of the day
OTHER CULTURE’S EVENTS
A male-centered holiday might feel like a new concept to some, however, they’ve been around for longer than we think.
White Day, for example, is practiced in Japan, South Korea, Vietnam, Taiwan, Hong Kong, and China. While men give women gifts on February 14th, women give men the equivalent on March 14th (with an emphasis on white or dark chocolate).
Another thing to note is that there doesn’t have to be romantic or sexual atmospheres around this gift exchange. It can simply be a matter of friendship, respect, or social obligation (you got something, so you should give something).
SIDE NOTE: Some places like China also have “singles day”, where it’s a celebration of being single. No one is left out.
And let’s not forget the separation of Mother’s Day vs. Father’s Day.
COMMERCIALIZATION
There is one indisputable fact around ALL these days.
They are for making money.
No one can argue that Valentine’s Day is more special, sacred, or pure. There’s the pressure to get something nice, go somewhere nice, and spend money to “prove” your love. It all ends up about money.
Everything ends up about money.
Even China’s “singles day” also ends up an enormous sale on places like Taobao or other online markets (November 11th equates to 11.11. And if you know Chinese cultures, they love their meaning with numbers).
IS THERE A MIDDLE GROUND?
I think the major issue comes from the title – while February 14th has connotations of romance, the alternative leans towards “a women’s place is cooking in the kitchen and performing in the bedroom.”
However, is the idea of a day for women and a separate one for men such a bad idea?
Compromising on a single holiday isn’t bad, but wouldn’t it feel extra nice to have a day just for you? Something like a second birthday. And if on the man’s day, he happens to want beef and fellatio (and his girl is happy to do it), why not? Or, if he wants sailing and seafood, go for that instead.
There are suggestions of a “Chicken and lickin” day for women as well.
NOTE: This doesn’t even touch on the LGBT community and same-sex couples.
So, it comes down to the following choices:
- A romantic day for women and a sexual one for men
- A sexual day for men, another for women, and a romantic holiday for both
- A romantic day for women and another for men
- Couples do whatever they want whenever they want
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What are your thoughts? Do you think there’s a compromise or is there nothing wrong with what we have now? Share in the comments!
