How to Use a Prostate Massager: What They Should Have Told You First Time

Table of Contents

Prostate Play? What are the Benefits?
Different Types of Prostate Massagers
How to Use a Prostate Massager?
I’m More Advanced!
Prostate Play Myths
How to Use a Prostate Massager: FAQs
Conclusion
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Recently, prostate massagers have gained popularity for their ability to not only provide anal stimulation, but also boost men and those AMAB (Assigned Male At Birth) health! A recent statistic stated that around 71% of men have tried or are interested in prostate play.

We know that exploring anal play can be both exciting and intimidating at the same time, but we guarantee that it pays off in the end! This guide will provide clear, judgment-free information that will not only walk you through how to use a prostate massager safely but also list its many benefits and bust some myths!

Prostate Play? What are the Benefits?

Regular prostate massages can have a plethora of benefits for those who choose to indulge in these activities.

Physical Health Benefits

The prostate, a gland unique to those who were born with penises, plays a crucial role in reproductive health. Regular prostate massages have been linked to many potential health benefits:

Improved Prostate Health: A 2009 study published in the Journal of Urology found that regular prostate massage may help reduce symptoms of chronic prostatitis and pelvic pain syndrome.
Enhanced Blood Flow: Prostate stimulation increases blood circulation to the gland and surrounding tissues, which can contribute to better overall prostate health.
Potential Relief from Prostate Swelling: Some urologists suggest that gentle massage may help relieve symptoms of benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) by promoting fluid drainage.

Sexual Benefits

Anal stimulation for men can also offer unique sexual experiences:

Intense Orgasms: Stimulating the “P-spot” can provide stronger, more full-body orgasms and many have described anal climaxes as “super orgasms”
Multiple Orgasms: Unlike traditional penile orgasms, men can experience multiple orgasms at once through anal stimulation.
New Dimensions of Pleasure: Prostate play unlocks a whole new world of stimulation, completely different from traditional sexual stimulation.

Psychological Benefits

Exploring anal play can offer significant emotional and psychological benefits:

Breaking Taboos: Those who engage in prostate pleasure can help destigmatize the sensitive and harmful stereotypes surrounding masculinity and anal exploration.
Increased Body Awareness: Learning about your body’s responses to different types of stimulation can help to foster a deeper connection to not only your body but your sexuality as well.
Enhanced Intimacy: For couples, introducing prostate play can strengthen trust and communication while spicing up their usual sexual routine.

Different Types of Prostate Massagers

Finding the right prostate massager can be cumbersome as one size doesn’t fit all. Below is a breakdown of the main types available

Type	Description	Best For	Special Features
Non-Adjustable Massagers
Traditional Curved	Fixed curve designed to reach the prostate	Usually everyone	Easy to use
Stainless Steel/Glass Wands	Rigid materials offering firm pressure	Temperature play, firm pressure	Durability, easy cleaning
Vibrating Non-Adjustable	Fixed shape with vibration function	Enhanced stimulation	Multiple vibration patterns
Adjustable Massagers
Flexible Models	Flexible joints for customizable angles	Users who struggle with fixed shapes	Personalized positioning
Inflatable Options	Expand once inserted for custom pressure	Beginners unsure about size	Adaptable pressure control
Remote-Controlled Adjustable	Change settings without manual adjustment	Hands-free play	Convenience during use

Material Comparison

Material	Pros	Cons	Best For
Silicone	Soft, flexible, body-safe	Can’t use with silicone lube	Beginners, comfort-focused users
ABS Plastic	Firm, smooth, affordable	Less flexible	Budget-conscious users
Glass	Allows temperature play, firm pressure	Fragile	Temperature play enthusiasts
Stainless Steel	Heavyweight, durable, temperature responsive	Heavy, no flexibility	Advanced users, temperature play

How to Use a Prostate Massager?

So you’ve chosen the right prostate massager and are looking to have some fun! Explore our guide below to see how to maximize your fun:

Step One: Preparation

Make Sure It’s Clean: Always clean your device according to the instructions included before use.
Spice Your Space Up: Create a comfortable, private environment where you won’t be disturbed.
Prepare Mentally: Take deep breaths and relax. Being anxious will not help insertion.
Body Preparation: We suggest taking a warm shower or bath to help your muscles relax a bit.

Step Two: Lubrication

Choose the Right Lube: Use plenty of lube. Generally, all massagers are compatible with water-based lubes, while silicone-based provides longer-lasting slickness, there are some massagers that can’t use them. (We suggest using our Lovense water-based lube)
Don’t Be Shy! Apply: Apply lube to both the massager and your anal area.
Keep It Within Reach: Have additional lubricant nearby for reapplication if needed.

Step Three: Position Position Position

Find Comfortable Positioning: Most beginners find lying on their side with knees slightly bent works well.
Alternative Positions:
- On your back with knees toward chest
- On hands and knees
- Squatting slightly over the massager

Step Four: Relaxation and Breathing

Focus on Your Breath: Take slow, deep breaths to relax your sphincter (rectal) muscles.
External Massage: Before insertion, gently massage the external area around your anus to help relax the muscles.
Work With Your Body: Never force insertion. If you feel like the toy is hard to get in, take a break, apply more lubricant, and try again later.

Step Five: Insertion

Start Slowly: Begin with gentle pressure against your anal opening.
Use the Narrowest Part First: Most massagers have a tapered tip for easier insertion.
Listen to Your Body: Insert only as far as feels comfortable.
Breathe Through It: Continue deep breathing during insertion.

Step Six: Finding the Prostate

Locate the Prostate: The prostate is about 2-3 inches inside the rectum toward the front of the body (belly button direction).
Recognize the Sensation: When you find the prostate, you may feel a distinctive need to urinate sensation. This is normal and will transform into pleasure.
Gentle Exploration: Move the massager slightly until you find the most pleasurable spot.

Step Seven: Stimulation Techniques

Start Gentle: Begin with light pressure and slow movements.
Experiment with Pressure: Gradually increase pressure to find what feels best.
Try Different Movements:
- Circular motions
- In-and-out movements
- “Come hither” motions
- Steady pressure

Step Eight: Using Additional Features

Vibration Settings: If your massager vibrates, start on the lowest setting and increase as desired.
Remote Controls: Adjust settings without interrupting your experience.
Combined Stimulation: Some find that combining prostate massage with penile stimulation enhances pleasure.

Step Nine: Whew, That Was Good!!

Gentle Removal: Remove the massager slowly and gently.
Cleanup: Wash your massager thoroughly according to manufacturer instructions.
Body Check-in: Some sensitivity afterward is normal, but pain is not. If you experience pain, consult a healthcare provider.

I’m More Advanced!

For those who have mastered the basics, here are some advanced techniques to explore:

Advanced Techniques

Edging with Prostate Stimulation: Approach your orgasm and stop repeatedly for intensified results.
Hands-Free Techniques: Learn to achieve prostate orgasms without touching the penis.
Extended Play Sessions: Gradually build up to longer sessions (30+ minutes) for deeper pleasure.
Pelvic Floor Engagement: Consciously contract and release pelvic floor muscles during stimulation.

Combining with Other Forms of Play

Temperature Play: Pre-warm or cool (if material-appropriate) your massager for new sensations.
Sound-Responsive Vibrations: Some advanced models can sync with music or ambient sounds.
Incorporating Bondage: For those interested in BDSM, prostate play can add intensity to restraint scenarios.
Dual Stimulation: Combine with other toys for increased pleasure!

Prostate Play Myths

Myth 1: “If I Enjoy Anal Play Then I’m Not Straight”

Reality: Sexual arousal and sexual orientation are two completely different things. Enjoying prostate stimulation says nothing about who you’re attracted to.

Myth 2: “Prostate Play Will Damage My Anus”

Reality: First off, the anus was designed to stretch so when anal play is done correctly with proper lube and clean toys, you’ll have nothing to worry about.

Myth 3: “I’ll Become Dependent on Prostate Stimulation”

Reality: While many AMAB enjoy anal pleasure, there’s no strong evidence of physiological dependency. You can enjoy various forms of pleasure without becoming “addicted” to any one type.

Myth 4: “It’s Always Messy”

Reality: With proper preparation and awareness of your body’s rhythms, prostate play can be very clean.

Myth 5: “It’s Only for Sexual Pleasure”

Reality: As mentioned earlier, prostate massage has potential health benefits beyond sexual pleasure.

Myth 6: “One Size Fits All”

Reality: Perhaps the most harmful myth! Every body is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. This is why adjustable massagers are so valuable for many beginners.

How to Use a Prostate Massager: FAQs

“Will it hurt?”

Not if done correctly. Start small, use plenty of lubricant, and listen to your body. Discomfort usually indicates a need to slow down, relax more, or use more lube.

“How do I know if I’m doing it right?”

The prostate has a distinctive texture in your anus, it’s somewhat firm and rounded, often compared to a walnut. When stimulated, you’ll more than likely feel a unique sensation different from other forms of sexual pleasure.

“Can I use my fingers instead?”

Absolutely! Many people start with finger exploration before moving to massagers. Just ensure your nails are trimmed!

“How often is it safe to use a prostate massager?”

For pleasure, it’s generally safe to use as often as desired, provided you’re not experiencing discomfort. For health purposes, consult with a healthcare provider for personalized guidance.

“What if I can’t find my prostate?”

Everyone’s body is different. We suggest that you try various positions, angles, and depths. Adjustable massagers can be particularly helpful for those who have difficulty locating their prostate.

“Can I use a prostate massager if I have hemorrhoids or other anal conditions?”

It’s best to consult with a healthcare provider before engaging in prostate play if you have any anal or prostate conditions.

“How do I clean and store my massager?”

Follow manufacturer’s instructions for cleaning. Generally, warm water and mild soap work for most materials. Store in a clean, dry place away from extreme temperatures.

“Can I travel with my massager?”

Absolutely! Modern materials are generally TSA-friendly, but always store in checked luggage for privacy.

“Are all massagers loud?”

Nope! Some massagers are designed to work discreetly and quietly.

Conclusion

Prostate massages can unlock not only immense pleasure, but a bunch of health benefits! By approaching it with knowledge, patience, and the right tools, you can safely discover whether this form of stimulation enhances your sexual experience and wellbeing.

Remember that every body is different and what may work for you may not work for others which is totally fine!

But, if you’re ready to explore your anal pleasure, explore Lovense’s adjustable, discreet and wearable prostate massager, the Edge 2!